I was in a bind.
For my first article of 2009, I kicked around a whole bunch of
training topics that I wanted to write about to set the New Year
off right. But so many topics popped up in my head, I didn’t which
one would be the best one to start with because they were all good
But then I thought back on a conversation that I had last week.
One day after training, I was sitting around talking with a couple
of my training partners and students and one of them asked me why
it takes so long to be successful in BJJ.
My response was that being successful in BJJ really isn’t hard; the
hard part is getting the students to shut up, listen, and do what
they’re told to do.
Of course, this caused a little stir among the group because they
thought I was suggesting that BJJ wasn’t physically and mentally
demanding or required lots of time and commitment on the mat. So,
once I assured them that wasn’t what I meant, I began to clarify my
Success in BJJ (or in life in general) really isn’t hard to
accomplish. If you want to become successful in any particular
area of your life, look for someone who has done what you’re trying
to do and model their behavior. That’s simple, right?
Right… well, kinda sorta!
The hard part comes when the individual’s ego gets in the way and
their reluctant to stop acting like a know-it-all, even when
they’re searching for help. All too often, people searching for
answers feel like the person they’re learning from has to be as
smart or as accomplished as they are to be believed as an expert.
And if the expert doesn’t meet their internal standards, learning
If the know-it-all could:
- Admit that they are in need of help, even if they are the
smartest person in the room
- Find the humility to ask an expert for help
- Shut up and listen to what the expert recommends they do
- Do exactly what they were told to do by the expert instead of
trying to find fault or challenge their knowledge
- Get feedback to make sure they’re doing it right if the advice
given isn’t bringing the desired results
- Work hard
- Repeat cycle as needed until goal is achieved
They would find that success would eventually find them because the
formula works, even if you have to repeat certain steps to work out
a few bugs.
Unfortunately, most people never get past the know-it-all stage
because they like to either hear themselves talk or do it “their
way.” Some would rather walk through unclear woods instead of
following a clear trail that’s assured to get them where they want
I guess success just isn’t for everyone. Does that include you?