“When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends.”
“I’d kill for a Nobel Peace Prize.”
A few days ago, I had an interesting discussion with a high-ranking student about whether he should go to a grappling class or not when he felt too tired to go.
The conversation took place because he asked my opinion as to whether he should miss the third consecutive class after being too busy at work to attend two previous training sessions.
He admitted that missing the first two classes were beyond his control, but the third one was due to laziness. And his concern was if he missed the third class, it might get easier to miss the fourth and maybe not go back at all.
I told him that he shouldn’t be having the “Should I go to class tonight?” conversation with himself because that was more likely to keep him from going to class. I also told him that he should definitely go to class and whenever faced with that decision in the future, to ignore the internal mental debate and just do it.
The grappler understood my point, shut down the debate in his head whether to go to class or not, went to class, AND had a great time
learning some cool stuff.
That grappler was me.
Yep, even as a black belt, there are times when life gets in the way and I can’t train. And then there are times when I don’t want to train because I want to go home and watch TV.
Whenever those “I don’t feel like doing chit!” moments creep up on me, whether it’s grappling or cardio training, I just shut down theinternal voice in my head that wants to give me a hundred reasons why I shouldn’t train and tells me to go home and chill because Ideserve it.
And I ALWAYS feel better when I’ve decided to do what I needed to do instead of what I wanted to do.
So, the next time that you’re driving home from a long day and that little voice keeps telling you to drive by the exit to get to your training academy and head on over to happy hour or home, stop the discussion and do what you need to do by going to class.
You’ll be glad you did.
“Experience is the worst teacher; it gives the test before presenting the lesson.” (Vernon S Law)
This question is based on something that I’ve heard over the years and wondered how the rest of the OG Nation felt about it.
I’ve heard grapplers say that they don’t train with a cup or mouthpiece because it causes just as many problems than it solves.
For example, the cup may protect the groin from direct or indirect shot, but it makes the grappler lazy in being able to react to safely protect that area, especially in self-defense situation.
As for wearing a mouthpiece, I’ve heard many grapplers say they don’t wear them because it makes it harder to breate and they can control how much force is directed towards their face and mouth (which is why they would need protection from the mouthpiece).
And then there’s that group that think groin protectors and mouthpieces are for punks!
Personally, I don’t wear either as much now like in the past, but I have situations occur lately when I wish i had and made me seriously reconsider. What’s your thought on the question?
Today (August 9th) is my 46th Birthday and to keep with a tradition
that I’ve been doing for the past 10 yrs, I always take time out to
reflect on the key things that I’ve learned over the past year and
share them with the OG Nation.
In the past, there were a few occasions when I had to reflect back
on a lot of stuff over the past year because I was messing up so
much and trying to fix it! But this year, I’ve only two “life
lessons” to share and the impact they had on me.
The first “life lesson” learned this year was the painful fact that
if you don’t set boundaries in your life, someone else will set
them for you, with their views of what they think your life should
be. In the beginning, it may not be so obvious that what you’re
doing isn’t “your plan”, but the day will come when you realize
that you’re being dictated by someone else’s agenda, especially
when you try to do what you want to do and it’s met with resistance
and criticism. I learned there were many things I was doing
throughout the year not because they bring me joy or add value to
my life… but because someone else thought it was good for me in
spite of how I felt about it.
The second “life lesson” from the past year is about not making the
same mistake twice. I made a couple of (actually three) mistakes
this past year that caused me tremendous grief and extremely close
to being major setbacks for me personally and professionally. And
even though I was prepared to “gut it out” and work around the
setbacks, self-reflection showed me the problems could’ve been
avoided if I had made some different choices. We all make mistakes,
but once we start making the same mistakes too often, they move
from mistakes to habits… and bad habits can destroy you.
And that’s all the “reflecting” for 2010. Thanks for sharing my day
with me. Let’s do it again next year for my 47th Birthday
Dedicated to improving your mat experience!